My Mother has been doing very well on her new medication regime. However it brings her focus back to events and situations that she had previously not mentioned or had concern about in months.

My Dad is always an interesting topic because in her more confused state she will act surprised to learn that he died. But in her new focused mind she remembers but will remark that it is not a memory she wants to bank. Mom will explain to me that she knows Dad is dead but thinks she wants it not to be true so she puts the idea out of her head.

Yesterday I came in from reading in my room into the family room and sat down next to Mom on the couch. She looked at me and said “Were did he go?” Knowing what she was referring to I asked “Are you talking about Dad?” Mom replied “Yes my husband. I thought he was back there taking a nap but now he is gone.” I cleared things up with a simple statement and said “Mom, Dad died three years ago.” She looked at me, laughed and said “Good excuse for him not to be here then!”